Your man doesn’t listen to what you say. Right? Mine never
did. He thought he was an intellectual, know it all guy and all I spoke was
mindless banter to him. Most of the time I did ramble about how miserable my
life is but then what did I date him for if he couldn’t even pacify me. After
endless fights with him over why he does
not listen to me, I gave up. I realized
there was no way that he’d find what I say worth the efforts he’d put for
hearing. Then I realized some very basic facts about men which I am going to
share with you
1)
Men steer
away from women that complain all the time – After a hard day at work if all he has to listen to
is how hot the weather is or how bitchy your boss is , he is bound to get
frustrated. He has his own set of problems and yours only add as a burden moreover
because you are not seeking a solution. For men it is like if there is a
problem, they solve it asap. We as women like to discuss it first. If you keep on complaining about every small
little thing he’d probably think of you as a pessimist whose aura is so
depressing that it would be better to get drunk at a bar than pay you a visit.
2)
Men hate
it when you don’t get to the point after talking for 10 minutes- I know
most of the time when we speak we start correlating 10 different things and by
the time we actually reach the point he’s so pissed off and bored that he
prefers not to pay anymore heed. See men
are straight forward creatures, say if they want sex, they’ll say lets have
sex. They won’t lecture you about how important intimacy is or how one should
keep their relationship fire alive.
3)
Men do
not like gossiping all the time- Yes this is the truth. They will love to
listen if Sally met another hot guy at the bar but they have no interest in
knowing how Sally woke up, got dressed , took a taxi..bla bla..
4)
Men
prefer reading what you have to say- When you talk to a man, at that point
of time three things work, His eyes , his ears and his brain. Most of the time
he gets lost looking at you hardly paying attention to what you are saying. Its
not that you are way too hot to get his eyes off but sometimes the weird
expressions we give while speaking are more than enough to grab his attention.
Now this was all what men do not
like. The point is what to do now? How to live without telling him every minute
detail? Well ladies its time for a little change
1)
Try not
to complain – Well we all know how important it is for us females to
register our dislike over something but then come on you have to control that
in order to make him realize how happy go lucky and chilled a babe you are.
2)
Try and
take interests in things he likes to talk about- Well errrr I know its
difficult but until and unless you don’t surprise him by your knowledge how
would he ever understand that you are a smart girl. Not every time you can talk
about what you like. If you want him to start listening to you, first make
efforts to get him interested in listening to you.
3) Start with the most important aspect of conversation-
If you want to tell him or talk to
him about say your family. Break it to him in the first 5 seconds so he knows
what is coming.
4) Seek
advice – Nothing gives a man the pleasure as compared to the ego boost he
gets on helping a damsel in distress. Massage his ego by asking him what you
can do in a particular situation and I bet he’ll listen to every little detail.
Obviously he has to offer advice how can he miss any details *wink*
5) Write it to him- Try to convey
important issues via emails or letters (if he is a busy person) . he’d read
through it and ultimately you can be rest assured what you wanted to say is
atleast registered in his brain. And you can always tell him I told you did you
not read the email.
I hope
this article helped a little. Do comment and tell me.
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